Re: New Journey starts today
[Re: Braverhund]
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05/29/13 12:01 PM
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JeanKBBMMMAAN
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I heard from a little bird that you got a new girl - her heart is broken too - like everyone is saying, you can heal together. She may never be "normal" but you don't know. Layers will peel off, and in about a year, you will see the dog you will have, though she will always continue to grow. I do a lot of leaving alone for about 2 weeks. I do my thing, I let them do theirs, they initiate contact (or not). I do a lot of exercise time with them, in the yard so they can really run it out (fenced so that is a help). That is where I engage them most - where there is room for them to get away as needed. Lots of times this leads to fun, but the goal for me is to just watch them, and let them watch me. If they progress quickly, excellent, if not, whatever! But I am not going to take them places or do things that might set them up where they won't succeed, and the reason they won't succeed is that I don't know them well enough/can't read them quickly enough, and they don't know me or trust me. Some dogs can do that quickly, others cannot - so I wait and see how they are. She is probably a dog that is going to need that time. I especially leave them alone when they eat - they have a crate, often covered with a sheet - to eat in so that way they have their space, and the crate is associated with a good thing. I don't set goals - my goal is to get up in the morning with the dog, and from there, it's all a bonus. If they do things, great, if not, we already met our goal, so no losses. If it is a dog I am going to have for a lifetime, no need to rush it. If it's a dog I am going to foster, if I do rush it, I could make it worse/harder for them. I do NILIF - in terms of making them do to get - it's different for every dog, maybe they need to glance at me, maybe it's a sit, whatever the behavior is that they can achieve at first is what it takes to get something. It's just to help give them the structure needed to relax. So mine is a lazy way - unless there is an immediate problem that has to be addressed - we do nothing except put structure in place, move in the yard with no distractions or worries of what if this happens (because nothing is going to happen), and letting them have the peace of mind that this person is going to let me be - while I eat, explore, etc. Congratulations!!!
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Re: New Journey starts today
[Re: MaxaLisa]
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05/30/13 12:10 PM
05/30/13 12:10 PM
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Braverhund
Carpal Tunnel
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Carpal Tunnel
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Massachusetts
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Jean, that was good to read, I really enjoyed that. I can imagine that intuitive Annie and Cara are going to heal and thrive together. Love, understanding, and patience are such healing things.  Cara is so very fortunate to have you, Annie!
Patti Frauchen von:
Grimm van den Heuvel, "Donnerpratzen" Smokey The TeddyLion, DLH purrbuddy
Dir gehört mein Herz
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Re: New Journey starts today
[Re: MaxaLisa]
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09/26/13 12:57 PM
09/26/13 12:57 PM
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Kayos

Can't Figure Tech Stuff Out
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Can't Figure Tech Stuff Out
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You know I was wondering too......
Kathy PAM, URO3, UCD, UACH Tidmores Rising Star Lydia "Mayhem" CD,BN,RE,AX,AJP,OFP,P1J,CA,DJ,HT,TKN,TC,CGCU, RATN 4/4/12 Jeli, (Pembroke Welsh corgi) CGC, RATI 5/13/19 Lucky, Wolf, Max, Kayos, Havoc - gone not forgotten.
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Re: New Journey starts today
[Re: Kayos]
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09/26/13 01:06 PM
09/26/13 01:06 PM
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Braverhund
Carpal Tunnel
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Carpal Tunnel
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Please, Annie, when you might have time, an update on your lovely, wonderful Cara  might be nice?  Grimmi and I are sending you both our best well-wishes!
Patti Frauchen von:
Grimm van den Heuvel, "Donnerpratzen" Smokey The TeddyLion, DLH purrbuddy
Dir gehört mein Herz
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